If we were having coffee together – 7 #wordsmatter

If we were having coffee together – 7 #wordsmatter

The maid has just left. The house smells of Colin and Lizol – fresh, inviting. As I step out into the balcony, the sky is thick with clouds, the air redolent with the promise of rain. It’s a beautiful day and I feel ‘settled’ like I haven’t felt in a long time.

If you were here and we were having coffee together, I’d tell you I’d finally found peace in this new home of mine. Together we’d raise a cheer to that – you with your extra strong coffee and I with my ginger tea – each with our preferred ‘hot beverage’, as Sheldon would put it :-).

You’d smile at the Big Bang reference, relieved to see me well and truly out of the dumps just as I was happy to be out of them. I’d apologise for having been fretful and whiny over the last month but you’d brush that off with a wave of your hand. That’s what friends are for, aren’t they? you’d say and I’d agree wholeheartedly.

If we were having coffee together I’d tell you that life had definitely been looking up for me since we last got together. I’d tell you about this house which was slowly, surely turning into a home. It was only now that I was beginning to truly appreciate it.

I’d tell you about other friends who had dropped by in happy batches exclaiming over each new fixture, opening cupboards and peering inside with the ease of long friendship, suggesting reading nooks and writing corners. I’d tell you how they’d complimented my freshly arranged bookshelves, picking out books to borrow.

I’d wonder if perhaps it was their excitement that had endeared the home to me. Does this happen with you sometimes – that looking at something through someone else’s eyes changes your view of it? That a glum lonely space suddenly becomes warm and cosy? It echoes with the memory of love and laughter long after everyone has gone.

It is this memory that wraps itself around me like a comforting hug as I go about my day prompting me to open my heart and home to more friends. I stock up happy memories, collecting them like Shylock hoarded gold coins, chasing away the gloom of the past few months.

If we were having coffee together I’d tell you how I had been inhabiting the kitchen more often, finding pleasure in going back to some of my favourite recipes. I’d tell you of the time I’d delighted in laying out a full homemade ‘party’ meal despite my rather limited cooking skills.

Together we’d look outside my window and watch the rain that was now coming down in a gentle pitter-patter. We’d watch the sparrows sheltering in the trees and I’d point out my plants that were slowly coming back to life, sprouting new leaves, making a new beginning.

Just like me.

Things weren’t perfect, but then perfection is a mere dream, I’d muse. It isn’t, you’d correct me, it exists scattered in small moments like this one, you’d tell me and together we’d laugh at our philosophical ramblings as we drain our cups and head out to meet the rest of the day.

So tell me dear friend, how is life treating you? What would you share if we were having coffee together?


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57 Replies to “If we were having coffee together – 7 #wordsmatter”

  1. If we’d been having coffee, we would have been talking about films and books. Glad you found a home in your new house – it’s a wonderful feeling to accept and then fall in love with a house, though it takes time.

    I like the picture you have drawn, Tulika, of the rain, the balcony, two friends talking over tea and coffee. Would seriously love to to that! 🙂

  2. First of all, please accept my apologies for not visiting your post earlier.
    Now coming to the post…it was a pleasure to have coffee and listen to your conversation with me about your new home and how things are building up between you and your new home. I can see that the romance between the two of you is not far from the corner!
    Congratulations for your new home and look forward to more such posts from you about your (this) new partner.

    1. Aw thanks Anagha. No worries about dropping by late. I’m glad you did come by. I hope what you say comes true and the house and I settle down together.

  3. I loved this piece, Tulika. I was secretly hoping to get a glimpse into your new home. If we were having ginger chai together, I would tell you that I woke up late today and it is a lazy Sunday for me. We are packing bags to head to an adventure in two weeks. I’m excited but as always I’m slightly anxious. It’s raining in Bangalore and I love this time of the year. If we were having chai together, I’d tell you that I so want to meet you. ♥️
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    1. Oh wow Parul, where are you off to? I love it that you travel so much and enjoy your travel tales. So that’s something to look forward to. Bangalore has long been on my travel itinerary. I have a lot of friends there including blogger friends, school friends and also my ex-roomie. One of these days I just will plan a trip.

  4. Such a beautiful write up. Loved reading it. Thank you for writing it the way you did 🙂

  5. So.. I have way too many cups of adrak chai in a day, more than anyone should. But I would still rather have that again, over the coffee. 🙂

    But I am so SO happy for you Tulika, so glad that the new house has started feeling like a home. I think sometimes it makes a difference to see certain things from the POV of fresh pair of eyes, especially if those eyes (and the people they belong to) are people you care about.

    Also, have you shared a shot of your new bookshelf somewhere on social media? Or your reading nook? If you haven’t, please do. I’d love to see.
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    1. I’ve shared pictures in bits and pieces. Will put up more soon. I’m just relieved I’m settling in. I really need to like the place I live in.

  6. I could picture myself having a masala tea with you. You write marvelous and am glad I stumbled across your blog. Maybe next time I get a chance for coffee with you we can talk about a HumTv drama “Khaas” or Turkish drama “Yemin”.

  7. So glad to see you settled in your new home, smiling beautifully and writing soulfully. You are so right, looking through someone else’s perspective would influence our likeness, especially if that someone else is someone who we love dearly. Shylock huh! I am hearing that name after a long while.
    I enjoyed this coffee post, Tulika. That reminds me, it’s been so long since I wrote my last coffee post. 🙂
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    1. Oh you must write it. There’s a certain comfort when I do my coffee posts. The writing flows easily. That’s rather strange because all my posts are conversational.

  8. Tulika, I must be the last one to stumble in for the hot coffee. Now I want to see your bookshelves.. Glad that you are loving the new place. If we were having coffee, I would tell you that finally I am getting back more into the blogging and writing space. So see more of you soon.

  9. I am guilty of not visiting your blog as often as I should, nevertheless whenever I visit I leave a little bit more impressed with your writing style. This post was written in such a way that I could visualize everything. I would have loved to drink adrak wali chai with you rather than coffee and would have loved watching the rains.Hope to do it someday.

    1. I’m not too good with decor Rajlakshmi but I do have well-stocked bookshelves. The hot beverage, the rain and the greenery are there for sure.

  10. If we were having coffee, I’d recommend Sherlock and Crown. The latter is based on Queen Elizabeth’s life, slow-paced, but definitely intriguing. I’d love to have coffee with you sometime, Tulika. I just hope for a better posting so that I stay connected to most of my favorite bloggers from the time I started blogging. Call me when you write this coffee post next time. I’m joining too 🙂

    1. Oh I’ve heard of Crown and your description makes it sound even more interesting. I’m just so afraid of getting hooked onto serials. It gets addictive and then I find it hard to not binge. So I normally stick with limited series or films and documentaries. But these two have been recommended by so many people that I just might succumb.

  11. First of all, I would like to tell you if we get together a lot of effort will get saved in making 2 kinds of ‘hot beverages’. It would just take a pan on the gas and of course the required ingredients and our ginger tea would be ready. Thus, while we have our tea together, I will congratulate you for finally feeling at home in your new house. I will agree with the thought when you see a place (home included) from a new perspective, you tend to start liking it. I would love to look outside your window and enjoy the rains 🙂

  12. First of all, I am going to repeat my words, YOU ARE BRILLIANT, Tulika! Love your writing!

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you how fortunate I find myself when I come across such gifted writers like you!
    I would also tell you how grateful I am that I work from home, thanks to the relentless rains , the sky has opened up its floodgates and the climate has decided to teach us, humans, a lesson.
    And, if you were at my home, then I would share with you this very moment when I am typing this comment with Cookie on my shoulder, kissing my ear, Chikki on one knee and Bholu on the other, tugging at my jeans and T-Shirt, testing my patience 😛 I do lose it, sometimes, but also consider myself so lucky to be the centre of their attention. I am sure you would love this scene!

    1. You are just too sweet and so generous with your compliments. Thank you Shilpa. Your comment made me so so happy. I admire your dedication and commitment to blogging. I’ve seen you getting serious about it over the recent past and that’s something I really envy. I wish I could bring more regularity to my blogs.
      I can just imagine you surrounded by your colourful friends trying to work at your laptop. What a cute scene it must make for.

    1. Oh TBBT is a favourite. Currently that’s my go-to show when I want to relax. My favourite though is Leonard. Sheldon is fun of course by Leonard is the sweetest.

  13. So much of warmth in your post, Tulika. I could almost feel you smile as you wrote this. I’m so glad you’ve settled into your new house and are making it home!
    I’d love to have coffee with you someday.

  14. Settled, at peace and calm in your house beside the window, that’s an awesome feel with a cup of ginger tea or mug of coffee and lots of chats. I have to sip my coffee every 2-3 years at a new window/ home so if we were sipping coffee together I would share you all my experiences of all the lovely places and cities I had stayed in moving houses.

  15. This post is filled with so much of positivity as it shows that you are really happy in your new home. I am happy for you and definitely wouldn’t mind having a cup of hot beverage in these monsoons on your balcony along with you

  16. A house now has become a home for you and thats a positive thing to happen 🙂

    The feeling when one aprpreciates the home and all thats contained withn it, the things painstakingly put together- the joy expereinced is truly immense.

    If i were sharing coffee with you, I would tell you that…

    I would like to someday get a book shelf at home and have a couch in front and just stare away at all those awesome smelling books 🙂

    Oh well, I possess limited cooking skills too, but off late ai am trying to work on traditional dishes perfectly the finer nuances.

    And as you say perfection is a mere dream. but well there isnt any harm in aiming for it right ? 🙂

  17. If we were having coffee, I would like to browse through your books and of course sit in the balcony like last time and sip our preferred ‘hot beverage’. I am glad that you have settled at your new place and it is turning into a home with all the love, warmth and chatter. If we were having coffee, I’d share that I have a lot of things going for me at the moment and hope that they all fall in place. Loved reading this beautiful and heartwarming piece.

  18. If we were having coffee today, I would recommend Fast and Furious: Hobbs and Shaw as an action/comedy since I have just returned after watching it. I would also tell you that I’ve had a tough month at work and am hoping the coming months will be more relaxed.

    1. I’m not much into action flicks but action/comedy sounds perfect. Let me see if I can catch this one. I hope things settle down at work and you get to relax.

  19. Good to read that you are feeling settled and at peace in the new home – its a pretty emotion wrecking thing to move houses and set up anew.

    I loved reading about this warm home who has a very effusive hostess – I would love to drop in some day and explore the nooks and crannies that you so lovingly mentioned here Tulika. And yes make that a cup if ginger tea for me too please!! 🙂

    Cheers to your new abode!!

    1. To tell you the truth I’m not a very good hostess, it’s just that having friends over has been so very comforting that I’ve enjoyed myself thoroughly. Most of them have been the really informal kind who happilt take over hostessing duties :-). So no stress there.

    1. That’s really the best. I would love to be in the same place for ever. We were at our old house for ten years and it seems like we’ve been there forever.

  20. This post is filled with so much warmth Tulika. Glad to see your new house is starting to feel like home. Life’s been a bit shitty for me lately but I’m hanging in there and finding things to be grateful for while also trying to be kind to myself. Hope you have a wonderful week ahead!
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    1. Aw that’s too bad Sanch. I hope things look up for you soon. It’s hard to find things to be grateful for when the going gets tough, glad you’re already doing that. Things will get better.

  21. Ah, I loved this chat over coffee because I love my freshly brewed coffee. I am happy to note that you are settling down well. It’s always true. When we move, we hate the new place, sometimes the new city. And then it grows on you. You fall in love with it, slowly yet steadily. And yes, sometimes another’s perspective makes you fall in love with what you have even more. Loved a peek into how you are feeling currently.

    1. Thanks Rachna. I’ve realised I take time to handle change but soon I convert completely. I’m still getting there but I know I will soon enough. Friends do make a huge difference. I’ve come to rely on them a lot over the past few years.

    2. That was some lovely chat over my coffee, thanks Tulika! A new place takes time and effort settling into and more so to fall in love with. Glad things are looking up on that front. I totally agree, sometimes viewing your spaces through other’s eyes can prove enlightening and also change your own perspective. Your post had me feeling all warm and fuzzy, just what I needed on this dreary rainy day!

  22. It’s so wonderful that you have finally found that connection with your new home. For me home is that place in the world where I fell completely and truly happy. In fact, if we were having coffee together , I’d tel you we have completed 6 years in our home yesterday and I’m so grateful for that. Also, I would tell you that M doesn’t let me sleep in on weekends And that’s what’s on my mind as I fry some sausages and read your post 🙂

    1. Six years is good. I hate moving. We spent ten years in our last house – that’s almost all of the children’s growing years.
      As for M not letting you sleep on weekends – tough luck on that one. It’s not likely to change for the next few years. Does she sleep during the day? You could try to steal a siesta :-).

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