In defense of Hitler

In defense of Hitler

Before I am lynched for supporting Genocide let me clarify what brought on this epiphany.
It was a lazy Sunday morning and I was happily immersed in the Express Eye. Trying to put away the moment when I would have to relinquish the newspaper I asked:
“What do you all want for breakfast?” 
“French Toast”
The chorus snapped me out of my Sunday mood right away. Oh how I regretted my
large-hearted gesture! Kicking myself mentally I began the uphill task of brokering a consensus. 
Democracy is hard work.
I was brought up
in, what I would describe as, a quasi-democratic home. It was democratic in the
sense that we had complete freedom to speak our minds resulting in long and very
heated dinner-table conversations (arguments) but the rules were pretty much
made for us. Even as we raged and argued and dubbed our parents the worst kind
of Hitlers, we were quite aware of this fact and stuck with the rules – well mostly
we did. (PS: I did more than my sister, that’s an aside I need to add!)
Coming back to us – ours, I feel, is a way more democratic household than my parents’. And
I am not sure that’s a good thing. I have to confess sometimes I invite the
children’s views simply to avoid a showdown later on or because I am caught up
with something and don’t have the mindspace to make a choice on my own.

As parents/teachers we do need to ask ourselves:

1.     Is the child capable of making the right choice
at his level of maturity?
2.     As the adult in charge, am I prepared to
accept his/her choice, whatever that may be?
Having the freedom to make choices is a wonderful feeling for
anyone, especially for children and they are quick to exercise and defend it
once they have it. Yet too much freedom can not just result in bad choices, it
might end up confusing the child. Try taking your young one to the toy store
and ask him to choose one toy and you’ll know what I mean.
Democracy certainly
doesn’t work all the time, definitely not in a parent-child (or a teacher-taught)

I would like to remember that as a parent/teacher:

1.     I do know best. I might actually know the
child better than he knows himself or what’s best for him.
2.     I make the rules.
3.     I will invite suggestions but I will have
the final word.
4.     I will disregard the rebellions and will
be prepared to be dubbed the ‘evil one’.
5.     I will not forget that despite the complaints
the children will never stop loving me because deep down they know I love them
Do I sound like a Tiger Mom ? Well sometimes Moms do need to get out the
Tiger/Tigress in them, even if it is only in the best interest of their cubs.

36 Replies to “In defense of Hitler”

  1. Loved reading this OM! esp the 5 points at the end… definitely agree.. Many instances when I feel that too many choices spoil/confuse a kid.. and many where i've regretted giving a choice..

  2. Though Hitler was probably not the best choice, I do agree that children should not be given free rein to choose or decide whatever they wish. At least, not at an early age though I definitely give my 11 year old the liberty…provided he step up and helps in the implementation!!

    1. Yeah I agree Roshni. Hitler was too drastic a comparison :-). You're right about the freedom too – as they grow we have to let go a bit at a time.

    1. You're right. We can get more democratic as they grow and learn to figure out things for themselves. Yet there will always be times when we have to put our foot down.

  3. How true! Setting rules right and adhering to them makes it simpler in the long run. I too had my initial doubts on being dubbed the evil one. Not anymore. An article I read said kids feel secure with boundaries and will learn to enjoy following them. By the way, what was it for breakfast? 🙂

  4. The query sounds like mine. I do that and my husband rolls up his eyes. But, my elder one knows if he asks for something out of the comfort zone, he needs to make it himself. But then he also learns to adjust. Democracy wins hands down!

  5. I'm not a Mom but I do believe that Moms need to be a little easier on themselves. Also, I think giving the children too many choices with regard to food amounts to spoiling them, no? 🙂

  6. You are definitely NOT a tiger-mom if you can even consider making 3 different breakfasts on one single morning! WOW! You are too lenient! I am not even married yet and my sister already feels sorry for unborn kids! I don't blame her though. I would too probably, but seriously! THREE different breakfasts on ONE day! It's bad enough having to make one! And then lunch! And then dinner! And kids want some evening snack too, I suppose! God! I think I'm better off single and kid-less!

    1. Ha ha ha – Chicky – wait till you have them you'll learn to work around their demands fast enough. And FYI I did NOT make three breakfasts! Well sometimes when I'm feeling verry verry generous I do it but then at least two have to be the very easy kind.

  7. I think it's wonderful that we can choose to look at things the way we do 🙂 And no, you are not a Tiger mom. You invite opinions, right? Else how would you manage a book club 😀 And yes, most times, moms will know best.

  8. Yes, yes YES! I was nodding my head to every word. This was on my mind recently when someone was talking about making 3 different breakfasts for 3 individuals (2 of them pint-sized) at their home!! Very well said, Tulika :).

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