A dilemma

A dilemma

It’s another fancy dress at the kids’ school and I’m in a bit of a fix. The theme this time is Nursery Rhymes. “Star, I want to be a star,” said Naisha as soon as she came home. “Twinkle twinkle little star. I already know the rhyme,” she chirped.  “We’ll see,” said I while thinking “Won’t do, too simplistic.” They have been singing that one since they could barely talk. I was hoping I could convince her for something ‘better’, according to me, of course.

After some thought, I arrived at the Queen of Hearts. It would be nice, thought I. It’s different, and it would be something Naisha liked — a red dress with shiny, glittery hearts, a crown, maybe and a plate of tarts.. perfect.

Not so, thought Naisha. The deterrent, of course, is, that she’d have to learn a new rhyme. She can do it easily enough, I know, she’s smart.. but the thing is she doesn’t want to.

So here’s my dilemma

If I push the Queen of hearts…
It’ll be an uphill task as she’ll need plenty of convincing.
Of course, she’ll have to learn a new rhyme.
She might worry about her lines (I know she’s a worrier, specially on stage) and her apprehensions might ruin the pleasure of the performance.
It is a nice concept.
It’s ‘different’.
She’ll certainly enjoy dressing up.


Should I go with the Star
It’s her idea.
She is comfortable with it.
She’ll be more confident on stage.
The idea really is too simplistic.
She’s capable of much more than this.

Am I being a Chinese Mum in trying to push her? Or am I being a laid back mum in letting her be? How will she know what she’s capable of if no one pushes her? She certainly isn’t the self-motivating kind. If she does well this time maybe next time she’ll be more confident in taking up a challenge instead of opting for the easy route and sticking to the safe and simple.

What do you think? Star or Queen?

Edited to add: She woke up this morning saying a ‘yes’ to the Queen. And now I’m wondering if she’s doing it just to make me happy.. sigh!
.. and I’ve had another brainwave.. what if we skip the rhyme. The brief says they have to talk for a minute.. not necessarily recite the rhyme. She could just say it, in her own words. Worth a shot. Yay.

6 Replies to “A dilemma”

  1. Hey Bikram.. thanks.. She's come around and without much convincing. I think the image of the crown with hearts did it. Now I've to figure out how to make it.

  2. Well you can try selling her the idea but I am sure she will enjoy more in wat she wants to do .. there will be that extra sparkle in the eye , if you know what i mean

    all the best to the little one ..


  3. If you ask me, try selling the idea to her and if she isn't convinced let her be. Sometimes it is how it is presented that makes the difference. So try innovating with the Star concept, at least she will be confident of pulling it off because it will still be her area of comfort 🙂

  4. Queen of hearts sounds so cool. but she has to feel confident too. Why don't you both choose something that both of you like and i'll help you with ideas for the dress if required.. Enthusiasm is what counts the most. If she is not happy about the hearts then it'll show on stage.

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