A how-have-you-been post

A how-have-you-been post

How have you been dear friends? How is the Covid-19 lockdown treating you? Are you able to step out at all? It seems surreal, even now, after over a month, that we’ve been housebound this long.

It’s been even longer for us as the children have been home since the end of February, preparing for their exams which ended midway. Needless to say, they were thrilled to bits. Who wouldn’t be, to be free of exams?

Slowly, over time, the thrill has faded as the seriousness of the situation sunk in.

Initially, the little things irked us

… having no home delivery: no milk, no bread, no vegetables everyday; having to limit our forays into the outside world: not being able to go buy a vada pao or a muffin or even a chocolate or a bag of chips, on a whim.

But those are inconsequential

We have come to realise that we’ve had to face no real hardship at all, that we are uncommonly fortunate, privileged even. The Husband made it home just before flights were cancelled as part of the Covid-19 lockdown. We’re ever so grateful to be together and safe.

A month of challenges

That said, it has been a month of challenges of a whole different kind. The Husband hasn’t lived with us this long for years. He is barely acquainted with this teen-version of the twins. The shut doors, the constant headphones, the messy rooms – the whole teenage thing takes him by surprise. While I have had years to reconcile myself to all of it, he has had to absorb it all over the last few days as a crash course in Nirvana. There were days when i thought I’d go crazy with the constant arguments along with the additional pressure of cooking and cleaning and keeping the house running.

A month later, I am glad to report that we’re all still alive. And thriving, I might add. Somedays when we’re sitting at the dining table and the Husband is ribbing the children about something silly and we’re all laughing together, life seems as perfect as it can be under the circumstances. Wars over the TV remote continue to rage, though.

When we watch the news…

..when we see hundreds of thousands of people stranded, away from homes and families, with no income, hopeless and hungry, I am conscious of my privilege evermore. There’s guilt too and helplessness. But we plod on through the days hoping the craziness ends soon.

We have another few weeks to go at least, so stay home dear friends, stay safe.

18 Replies to “A how-have-you-been post”

  1. This lockdown has been challenging in its own ways. But that being said, it has given us a bit of time to relax and pursue new and long-forgotten hobbies. Stay safe, take care.

  2. This stay at home exercise has been a revelation of kinds. I am realising how much simpler my life can be and how I have been unnecessarily complicating it. Discovered old hobbies and new passions. Renewed old friendships, forged new ones. Happy to note you are all together and safe. Who knows we may actually cherish thee days amongst cherished memories?!
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  3. Glad to see a post OM!
    Crash course in Nirvana.. And, remote wars.. I hear you!
    Each day I acknowledge how fortunate and privileged we are though.. and feel immense gratitude. While also feeling sad and helpless for the scores of them struggling. Praying they find the strength to live through this…
    Take care. Hugs.
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  4. I wrote a post on 20 days of lockdown last week I think. Was bottling up so much inside that I needed a vent. Yes, some days I count the blessings, other days I freak out with worry and panic. So much on hold just now. But seeing so many others humans and animals suffer makes me so very sad as well. So it’s a rollercoaster just now.
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  5. It’s been a rough time, these past few months. And at-least for us here in US, it’s going to last a while, because too much damage has been done. But I guess I have finally accepted the state of affairs as the new normal. And it helps to deal with it. I try to see the positives, which I can still find, for us as a family. And that itself is something to be immensely grateful for. Because I know so many who are struggling. This is costing them their health, their livelihoods. And my heart goes out to them.

    I am glad to know you guys are doing okay too. Has the hubby now made peace with this new teen avatars of his babies? 🙂
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    1. Ha ha .. yes he has, sort of. The toughest bit is to learn to leave them alone and not to micro-manage them. As a parent, that’s hard. The children have started online classes so they’re happily engaged for some part of the day, that makes it easier.
      Glad to hear you’re safe. Take care Shantala.

  6. I was just going to ping you today to ask you how you all are doing, Tulika. Glad to see this from you. As usual, you keep it real and that’s what I so appreciate about you and your writing.
    At this time, I too just make it through the day, grateful for all we have and yet saddened by what I see. Have made some contributions through a helpful supermarket and the Municipal Corporation, but every day brings new stories of starvation and I can’t help being moved.
    Stay safe! Hugs. ♥

  7. Yes, staying home, staying safe is the need of the hour. And it’s heart-warming to see how people in India are faring so much better than their first world counterparts.

    God knows how long this will last, but when all this is behind us we shall be grateful we made it through.

    Take care, Tulika.

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