My earliest memory

I have been tagged by the wonderful Vidya with a ‘My earliest memory’ tag. Thank you Vidya for this trip down memory lane.

This promises to be a bit of a disjointed post quite like my earliest memories. There is no single stream of thought. Memories come as images, flashes, feelings and incidents. And so I’ll go with a list. Come along folks.. 

…here are my top five.

1. That old man..

My earliest memory is of singing “This old  man” at the top of my voice in pre-school. I went to one of the nicest ones ever… The teachers were called aunties, the principal sang with us and we had red school bags, just a tiffin large, which we hung from our necks. As a bonus it had a mini zoo with rabbits and guinea pigs. It was a dream. By the way I’m still trying to figure out what that song means.

2. Bedtimes with my baby sister

They key word here is ‘baby’. 
My dear sister was the sweetest baby ever. It was only later, when she refused to settle down to her ‘little sister’ status, that the fights really started. We would cuddle up on this huge bed and I’d feel all grown up and older sisterly!!

3. My silver screen debut…

..was such a flop. 
My dad would set up his projector and we’d sit together to watch old photographs. A very very ‘Hum Saath Saath Hain‘ kind of thing. There was this one picture of me with a running nose and a dirty grimy face that I positively HATED. Each time it came on I’d walk out howling. Of course my sadistic family had a blast and my father would never ever skip that one. That baby picture, by the way, is a euphemistic one.

4. The smell of crysanthemums..

…at the flower show. 
We were regulars there every winter. We’d bundle up in our woollens and spend long relaxed Sunday afternoons on the NBRI (National Botanical Research Institute) lawns. There were gladioli and roses and other flowers too. 
However it’s the chrysanthemums that stay in my memory most prominently. 
That luxurious green grass under my feet, that intoxicating smell of flowers and the music of the shehnai still remain with me.. yeah they played the shehnai .. no ‘gandi baats‘ back then.

5. Parades and processions

Nope.. we never stumbled upon a Saif or a Sonali
but the baraats were fun, nevertheless

My early years were spent in old Lucknow. Celebrations in the crowded old city are a whole different thing – the music is louder, the clothes more colourful, the dancing more carefree and the bonhomie ever so contagious. I remember rushing to the door at the sound of music. First, there was the Bharat Milap, a huge procession to celebrate the coming together of Ram and Bharat. For some reason it would happen at an ungodly hour in the night. I remember being woken up by my grandmother and would sit there sleep flying out of my eyes at the sight of boys and girls dressed up as characters from the Ramayana. Colourfully painted Ram and Sita on a rath, Lakshman and Bharat followed by Hanuman swinging his gada with his troupe of monkeys and a bunch of bears thrown for good measure. Super fun!! The marriage season would see the baraats streaming by with the band singing the quintessentially off key ‘aaj mere yaar ki shaadi hai’, the women in all their finery, the groom on the horse, kids dancing like they were possessed and yes the shower of coins, which we were absolutely forbidden to pick up. What a waste, I always thought.

During moharrum there were the sombre tazias. Those men lashing themselves was a sight I cannot forget.

So yeah that’s my top five.

… and now I tag fellow blogger and dear friend.. the super organised Shilpa. Come on Shilpa, spill the beans from your past.

Little friend

She must have been about 6. Some days when her school would have a holiday she would come with her mum. Her bright eyes and shy demeanour reminded me of a tiny sparrow as she sat in the corner of the kitchen following her mum with her eyes as she swept and mopped. 

Try as I might, I could never draw her out. She’d watch the kids sprawled around reading, colouring or simply bickering. But she’d never try to get friendly, always remaining aloof, seeming way older than her years. She’d look away quickly when she’d see me watching.

Often I wanted to tell her, ‘It’s okay.. take a look, join them….” but something held me back. Would she become too familiar, cheeky over time? Would it sound patronising of me?  And so I kept quiet and let her be.

One day her mum told me, “Didi can you get a warm jacket for my daughter? It’s her birthday next week and I don’t know where to find one.” She came that day dressed in her prettiest frock. After she’d tried out the jacket I handed her another packet… She tore open the cover and as a bunch of books tumbled out, for the first time acting her age, she whooped for joy. Her mum looked on startled at her reaction.
But not me, I knew. Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye. A book lover myself how could I not see her love for them?
Yes, I’d seen those curious interested looks she sneaked at the kids’ books. And that day I’d found her reading ‘Stories from Panchatantra’. So engrossed was she in putting the letters together that she didn’t hear me enter. When she did, she dropped the book with a startled, guilty look and vanished back to her post at the kitchen. 

Yes I saw all of that and I knew..

Happy reading little friend!
Linking to Write Tribe’s Wednesday promptSometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye’. The prompt is given by our very own  Kajal Kapur.

C is for Clock Towers

That’s the clock tower in my hometown Lucknow. Isn’t it magnificent?

In Lucknow we call it the Ghantaghar. Literally translated it means hour (Ghanta) house (ghar).. pretty apt, I say. Ghanta also means a ‘big bell’ in Hindi and that fits in well too, bell-house, since it must have tolled to tell time.

A few facts..
Height:  67 meters – It is the tallest tower in India.
Built in: 1887
By: Nawab Nasir Ud Din Haider
To: mark the arrival of Sir George Couper, the first Lieutenant General of the Awadh Province.

As a kid I remember the grounds around the tower where we’d accompany our dad for his morning walk. I love it’s old worldly feel and deep red colour. In case you want to read more about clock towers of Lucknow you can go to An Indian Muslim’s Blog.

Back then clocks and watches were a rarity so it must have been a structure of some importance, specially for calling out people for prayer. How lost we feel now without a clock! Come to think about it not being driven by time wouldn’t be such a bad idea, right? Of course only if you don’t have angry bosses waiting for you, or the school bus to catch each morning. Life would have been amazingly laid back and relaxed.

Linking to ABC Wednesday

A new beginning

He tried hard, desperately hard, to survive, seeking support from his community, his religion, his people. Once, he had been completely invincible. But then as strong hands came together holding up the proud flag … orange and green .. he died, forever. Where there is unity, strife has to die. He died because they wouldn’t accept him.

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Today’s prompt was ‘They said he died because they wouldn’t accept him’. I refuse to mourn on such a happy day and so decided to celebrate the end of strife and all else that’s not well with our country.

HAPPY REPUBLIC DAY!!!!

And with that we come to the end of our week long 55 festival at Marathon Bloggers. What a blast it has been.

100 Happy Days – Week 3

Yeah we’re in Week – 3. If you’ve been around you’ll know that I’m trying to find one happy thing each day, hundred days in a row as part of my own version of the 100 Happy Days project. I am hoping to take it through the year after the 100 days are through. So far 2014’s proved to be a happy year. The New Yeary feel is still with me.

Here are Week 1 and Week 2.

Each day I end up with many many more than the prescribed ‘one’. However one happiness that’s been eluding me is my weightloss target. I’m hoping putting it down here will inspire me to try harder. Maybe next week it’ll be on my list.. I’m short by 500 gms. Think that’s easy?? Well last week I was short by a mere 300 gms. So there. This weight thing is tricky as hell. It can swing any way.

For now here’s my list for the week..

Happiness is..

The kids ‘cooking’ their own milk…

Which essentially means pouring, warming and adding sugar and Horlicks. No big deal there. But their pride and their happiness is crazily contagious. “We’re all grown up na ma?” said N.

Catching a favourite, much-watched film yet again….

and having the leisure to watch it. Hunger Games..on the telly.

Table for four on Sunday

… and wondering how I can overeat even when the menu’s a basic chhole-chawal!!

N cleaning her cupboard on her own…

This one actually deserved a full post considering it was completely on her own initiative. She emptied her cupboard and it was such a scary sight that I offered to help. Here’s what she had to say.. “Main mehnat se nahi darti, bas aage badhati hoon.”  :-|. (Note to self: Need to do something about this very filmi brand of Hindi the kids are picking up from the telly). But she did clean it up and happily posed for the picture.

Comparing rings with your daughter and losing the contest..

Need I say more??

A latte at CCD 

Love love that heart. 

.. and then a cake n coffee meet with mums and chintus

That’s my list. What’s made you smile this week? Do do share … happy people make me happier.