Dilli 6 meets Kite Runner

I was born and brought up in a small mohalla of old Lucknow. That’s a somewhat Dilli 6 setting, the same interconnected rooftops, pleasant camaraderie and long hours on the terrace.
The hottest ‘sport’ back then was kite flying. No gulli cricket for the mohalla boys. No sir, those were tame games for our toughies. It was a strictly boy thing. The gender barrier was clear.
My sister and I had kept out of the way of ‘the boys’. We stuck to our Nancy Drews and Little Women peacefully playing Chinese Checkers and Carom to while away long vacations.
However it was tough to remain unaffected by the sights and sounds that surrounded us. The terrace of the neighbouring house overlooked our garden and was a hotspot for kite kings. Bereft of any parapet it offered full view of all the excitement. “Dheel de, dheel dheel dheel DHEEL DE.. gayi gayi teri toh gayi. Woh chand tara le.. abe chand tara le na… ama yaar kya karte ho…. kaat kaat kaat kaat kaat kheench le kheench le.. gayi gayi gayi… and then mayhem.
Mothers screamed warnings, boys ran recklessly from roof top to roof top, while others dangled dangerously from terraces to catch the kite. Meanwhile the subject of their excitement swayed gently down completely oblivious to the turmoil it had caused. That a flimsy square foot of paper and few bamboo sticks could inspire such thrills seems inconceivable to me today.
However back then it seemed completely natural. I sat chewing my pencil, my homework untouched, with my eyes on the sky avidly taking it all in. I watched as the boys spent entire days on their terrace not sparing a thought to bleeding/bandaged hands. I saw them mending their kites with boiled rice and dough (yes they stick). I watched as they boasted about their razor sharp manjhas. I heard them brag about bringing down two kites in one go or laugh about broken heads as someone ran to catch a ‘cut kite’.
Sometimes a kite would sway straight into our garden or on our roof and I’d enjoyed my moment of power as tens of hands were held out — ‘humein dijiye, humari hai’ they said till I handed it to the lucky one who took my fancy that day.
This, my friends, was an almost everyday affair. However the day after Diwali was special. Shops would down shutters and services would come to a halt as Lucknow geared up to celebrate Jamghat, a day dedicated to kite flying. Men and boys, old and young came together in this kite festival. No mother could dare to protest, no house could close its doors to the boys as they came rushing in behind their catch.
By evening the competitions were at full peak. Amidst all the excitement my sister and I sat in our garden with our school books half- heartedly struggling with our holiday homework. However our ears, eyes, hearts and minds were totally centred on the terrace next door as it buzzed with excitement. The contest seemed to be hotting up between a saffron and gold veteran and a blue and red challenger. All eyes were glued on the high action in the sky with people excitedly taking sides. We too put aside our books and cheered the challenger. The kites met and separated then met again. The countdown had begun.. the weak must go down. Then it happened. The veteran proved it’s mettle as the blue and red came sailing down to loud cheers and disappointed sighs.
Our neighbour’s 10-year-old son had also been observing the match rather keenly but he was more interested in the catch than the match. His eyes fixed on blue-red he dashed to get it. With caution the last thing on his mind he sprinted from terrace to terrace as the kite meandered down and some other kids joined in. Soon the ‘catch the kite contest’ became just as hotly contested as the previous one. The neighbour’s son had a decided edge as the kite made its way to his terrace. He ran and ran and ran; till he had no clue where his terrace ended and our garden began. In the blink of an eye he was running on thin air and in another blink he was falling .. falling.. falling.. right onto Me!
There we were – the neighbour’s son and I with my school books and geometry box scattered all around us and my extremely startled sister looking on. The lucky boy escaped with just a few scratches while I sat nursing a broken ankle for months.
Moral of the story: Watching a sport is injurious to health.

PS: Needed to acknowledge my sister’s contribution to this post for holding my hand as we walked down memory lane together.

 

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Dilli 6 meets Kite Runner by Tulika Singh: This brought back so many nostalgic memories of kite flying. As I said before the games we play as kids in the neighborhood are the best sporting events. The preparation that goes on for the kite flying contests, the adrenaline rush, the eyes trained to catch the kati patang and the magic of community sporting event all came floating in front of my eyes. I have seen it all come alive at Dilli 6 and heard many such incidents like yours from dad, who was from Allahabad. Great trip back to childhood. Congrats.

Star crossed

When we changed houses in Mumbai the kids’ took a long time adjusting. Whether it was the new house, the new school or the new friends.. the kids were just not themselves. Their misbehaviour reached the peak, or rather the nadir. At a complete loss on how to handle them the doctor-dependent me marched off to the counselor. She helped.. immensely.
At her advice I started the kids on a star-cross system, a star for good behavior a cross for bad. It worked so well that now, almost a year later the stars and crosses are still celebrated and mourned with gusto.
H remains more sensitive to the issue. Threaten him with a whack and he remains blissfully unaffected, threaten him with a BIG BLACK CROSS and he comes running. For some weird reason each time I say ‘H you’re getting a big black cross,’ his immediate reaction is ‘And N?’ It’s as if N’s getting a cross too makes the whole thing more bearable. But boy oh boy if he’s the only one being penalized I am prepared for some serious protests.
A few days back he got a cross. He pleaded with me no end to reconsider, which of course being a mean mama I didn’t. Then for the longest time he followed N around saying, “Please take a cross.. please N, please.”

Glitter n glue

Each time one enters the kids’ room it’s like launching off on an adventure. One never knows what one might find there. Yesterday I entered and found my chappals stuck to the ground.. Naisha!.. I sighed.
She’s been on the cut/paste spree for quite sometime. She cuts up just about anything she can find. Umpteen times a day she comes to me with a “Mama may I cut this?” Yes I’m grateful she remembers to ask. And I always, always give it my full attention because it can be just about anything from a fresh newspaper straight off the doorstep to the electricity bill or the doctor’s prescription.
So much for the cutting.. the sticking is worse.. She uses fevicol and roams around the house with sticky fingers… I got her a glue stick.. and things were fine till Hrit entered the picture. Like a typical disruptive brother he promptly twisted the entire thing out and trampled it to a messy sticky death. Naisha of course threw a fit and went back to the fevicol… and I stepped right into it. I was ever so glad my parents had hammered the ‘always wear your chappals habit’.
Think positive I told myself before I could get worked up… at least the mess is confined to their room. Then Naisha took to glitter. Anyone who has ever had any experience with glitter knows how stubborn it is.. It JUST DOESN’T GO. I innocently gave Naisha a go ahead for the glitter-glue combination. It’s been three days since they made their glitter paintings.
Hrit’s glitter kite..

.. and Naisha’s shiny flower
Since then it has traveled well out of their room and is all over the house and all over us too. Despite the baths and the cleaning it still shows up at unexpected places  as a sudden sparkle… on the tissue box, in Hrit’s hair, on my cheek, on my chappals, on the screen of my laptop, on my maid’s hands and of course all over Naisha.
A shining reminder of think before you allow.

Notes from a journalist turned blogger

Writers who are journalists turned bloggers have to take on some special issues… if you’re one you’ll know what I’m talking about. And if you’ve been on the desk for a while the situation is even weirder. The thing is while at the desk you carefully cultivate a writing etiquette and slowly it becomes a reflex deeply rooted in your brain.. while blogging it’s just a pain in all the wrong places.
Compulsive obsessive word count disorder
Yes this is the first one.. the urge to check word count every few words.(92) I still have the itch to do it (100)…. and I have to continuously remind myself.. this is not a newspaper.. this is MY blog and I can fill it up with thousands of words of whatever I like.
Cap it
THEN there’s the thing about ‘first word in all caps’. Don’t ask how many times I’ve had to go back to a post and remove that ‘all capitals’ from the first word. Oh and there are so many other style elements… go away all of you… I’m a free woman …I’m a blogger for godsake!
Break it up
That’s what the editor told us.. if your piece is too long break it up.. and so the fixation with subheads. I simply can’t get away from the image of a reader frowning in distaste at a long page of unbroken prose. Being an avid reader of novels I lurve unending pages of prose.. but then reading and writing seem to be locked in two different zones of my brain.
PICTURE CREDIT: PIXABAY

Picture this

No article, features article specially, is ever complete without a picture. Don’t ask how many long hours I’ve spent surfing in-house photo libraries, Google images and a host of other sites looking for the perfect picture. For the blog of course it doesn’t matter. Yet if I don’t have one in my camera, I still fall back on Google images. Without a picture the piece seems so… incomplete. (BTW if you Google ‘journalist’ you just get images of the electronic-media.. had to search under ‘writer’ to get this one.)
And last of all.. the dreaded Media Net
If you’ve worked for a paper, specially the leader of them all, you know immediately what this is.. the bane of our existence at the desk. God forbid you mention a brand.. any brand in your write up.. or you let it slip past your editing .. you get a congratulatory call all the way from Delhi. “Why did you ‘promote’ that brand?” You write about a restaurant you can’t mention the name.. you can write about a disc.. but no name… you write about shops, resorts, watches and jewellery but.. no mentioning names without permission. Oh it takes plenty of practice and hours and hours of dressing downs (putting it mildly) to get it right. And finally when I did get it right, I quit.
On my blog.. Gawd I so love the freedom of it all.. not only can you name the brands you can even provide links to them.. Yay. Yet each time I do it… I get a guilty twinge.. a pang of conscience, part of which is still behind my work desk at FC Road.

Girl power

I had always been under the impression that my girl was a girly girl but O boy Naisha gave me some surprise. She got into a fist fight with a boy… an older boy… and gave as good as she got.. if reliable sources are to be believed.  I confirmed and reconfirmed. “Naisha got into a fight? Naisha??”

“Yes mama,’ said Hrit, the reliable source, adding quickly, ‘but I didn’t do anything. ‘ So much for big brother support.
I queried further, “What were you doing when they were fighting,” I was saying ‘Don’t fight, don’t fight.” But they didn’t listen,” said he. Hrit seemed immensely pleased with himself. This sure was a first. Hrit telling about Naisha’s fight — normally it’s the other way round.
Of course I told Naisha that was a naughty thing to do. She was duly repentant and soon enough was back to being a ‘good girl’.  Come evening the kids met and the apologies were made. She gave him a sorry ‘sweet’, he shared his chalk with her. Before long the two were playing together again. Fight over.
Kiddie fights are so uncomplicated.. no hard feelings, no cold wars, no sulking..
I couldn’t really decide whether I was truly disturbed by the incident. Strange.. I mean had it been my son I would have been really really upset. Not so with the daughter. I was part relieved she could give it back.
The big question again.. how do you want your kids to handle a fight.. come home crying or send someone home crying.  Tough one.  For now I’m sticking with what a counselor told me once – ALL FIGHTING IS BAD. So NO giving it back.. tell an adult. If no adult is around.. find one and tell.
As they grow older the logic’s becoming tough to explain.. .
How can all fighting be bad?
Ram was God.. he fought, didn’t he?
So did Krishna and Hanuman (Hrit’s current idol).
Bad logon ko toh maar sakte hain na, mama?
Whew.. help someone!
BTW my Facebook friends were quite amused by Naisha’s militant behavior and gave her a unanimous thumbs up…
Tulika Singh Naisha got into a fist fight with a boy a year older… Hrit gave a blow by blow account.. role reversal.
Hemisha Marolia D’Silva cute site it must have been! Girl power!
Nisha Kapur I can’t believe it . heheheheh . nice good going .
Kumar Shakti Shekhar Thakur trait! 🙂
Neha Singh WOW!….TOOO GOOD:)…BRAAVO NAISHA……GOOD GOING GIRL :)))
Neeraj Singh well she made it clear that don’t mess with thakurain…..go girl
Huma Khwaja proud of u Naisha..keep it up
Tulika Singh Hey bhagwan is there no one who supports a non-violent India? @Shakti, Neeraj.. Thakurs do NOT generally bash up people — luk at Sunil, me.
Neeraj Singh i just said it in a funny way…..
Nupur Shankar I happened to witness a scuffle between a boy and a girl in Rithvik’s school the other day. Another girl, who was obviously supporting the girl, suggested to her friend to “kiss and hug the boy!” which would have definitely resulted in the boy just running for his life 😉