A new beginning

You’re the hottest marketing executive on the block. Mass –
niche, dynamic – static, demand – supply, it’s all right up your alley.
So, you think you know it all.
Then along comes a new market – nascent, unexplored. Two tiny clients. Just two? Yeah, I can handle this, you think.
But this time it’s different. This market’s fickel. Today it
demands rattles, tomorrow bats and Barbies, then playstations. Today it’s
milk, tomorrow porridge, then burgers. 
Growing, changing, constantly evolving. A step ahead, always.
Exhausting, 
Exciting,
Endearing, 
Addictive.

Then you realise your clients are giving you more than they ever demanded. And you’re hooked.

Linking to 100 words on Saturday

The prompt for the week is 

So, you think you know it all

The F word…

…. made an entry in our home. Yeah the real one.

Last night over dinner N asked me ‘Mama what does F*** mean?’ She rhymed it somewhere between the real thing and the word ‘hook’ so I took a while to absorb the question. That and the fact that the kids are not eight yet. I cannot even begin to explain what I felt. Here I am insisting on the ‘aap’ instead of ‘tum’ and freaking out if I hear a ‘shit’ from them and they’re onto this!

A ‘talk’ followed. I told her I was glad she’d asked me what it meant, that it was a ‘bad’ word not to be repeated, ever. However the damage will remain. I cannot possibly erase it from her memory. In all likelihood it would be even more securely planted since I warned her off it. And I’m afraid it’ll make an appearance in a moment of anger or stress.

The thing that worries me more is that she picked it up from a child from our society. I’ve mentioned earlier how I’m not comfortable with the twins’ playing with older kids, yet I don’t know how to stop it. This is the kind of thing I was worried about. Not that bad language is okay at any age but the older ones seem to revel in it.

I considered talking to his mom but the other mothers warned me off. Apparently they’d spoken to her earlier but she didn’t share the concern (they’re kids, they will pick up all kinds of stuff, she maintains). So now I’m in a bit of a quandary. What should I do? Tell the children to stay away from that kid? That’s not feasible since our’s is a small society with limited playing space. Besides, the children like him. He is a likeable kid and he’s just 10. But what if they pick up more bad language or worse start believing it’s acceptable to use it?

Should I talk to the kid directly? I know him well enough. That’s a thought I might follow through. Talking to the twins and warning them off bad language and bad behaviour rather than off bad kids seems like the best thing to do but it’s hard, really hard to get it across to them. How does one explain that a kid who is friendly, who teaches them cricket, who races with them each evening, who’s the epitome of cool is not so cool after all.

Sigh!

But then who said mothering would ever be easy.

R is for (non) Readers

Some are born readers, some achieve being readers and some have reading thrust upon them… And then there are some who refuse to read even if it’s thrust and thrust and thrust upon them..yeah that would be my twins.We live in a house surrounded by books. I read. I have always read since we were kids. Our father would get these inexpensive Russian books for my sister and me and we would devour them within hours. Then we discovered Noddy and Enid Blyton and there was no looking back.. Amelia Jane, Malory Towers, St Clair’s, Faraway Tree then on to Famous five, Secret Seven….. It was like unlocking a treasure chest. We’d wait for our weekly library period at school. We were issued two books ( a fiction and a biography). We’d read them at supersonic speed and then exchange with our friends before the week was through.

We’d read during tiffin break, during the bus ride home, over lunch and at bedtime. Classics, comics, thrillers, historicals… I read them all.

When I got married it was wonderful to find duplicates of my favourite reads in The Husband’s collection, even though he is more of a non-fiction reader. Our bookshelf at home is nothing if not eclectic.

Since when the twins were babies they have absolutely loved stories. Beginning with Bubbles and Bruno I exhausted all the Doras and Noddys. I picked up stories from the Panchatantra. I trawled Indian mythology for interesting stories. They knew the Ramayana by the time they were three. And then tales of Lord Krishna and Hanuman.

I told them interesting anecdotes from famous scientists’ lives.. Archimedes and Newton.. Einstien and Edison. I even told them bits of Harry Potter.. broke up bits of the story like episodes. They loved it. And still they wanted more so I made up stories, scores of them.

And I waited for the day they would start reading on their own.. And nothing.. They just didn’t.

I brought them beautiful books.. ‘pop ups’ and ‘sticker storybooks’ and ‘colour your own story books’. They oohed and aahed over them, they stuck the stickers and coloured the pictures and then moved on. I tried leaving an interesting story midway. They would simply pester me till they drove me crazy and I’d have to read it to them.

Did I overdo the story telling? Maybe. Did I put them off by trying too hard? Maybe. I’d just been so excited and impatient to share it all with them. There really are so many wonderful stories to share. Sigh!

They have crossed their seventh birthday and I am afraid it’s already too late. I see hope for H.. He does pick up a book – not so much fiction but books on Dinosaurs and Sharks and other scary stuff (!!) yet I’m happy. N however, seems a lost case. She simply will not read.

One of those rare moments..

Oh I’m still trying and I’ll keep trying but I’m slowly beginning to reconcile myself to having a non-reader for a daughter and trying to be okay with that. The thing is kids will be their own people, will have their own personalities, their own likes and dislikes no matter how much we try to mould them a certain way. That’s not to say I won’t try to inculcate good habits inthem (Rather, what according to me are good habits).. but I have to learn to let go at some point.

It’s a tough lesson in parenting, but one I need to learn and reiterate to myself over time.

Linking to ABC Wednesday

Q is for the Quintessential workaholic

Yeah that’s the Husband.

One morning we went out for coffee/chocolate shake and The Husband got an official call..

Here he is at the call.
Then he had an important message to send off.
H got bored waiting for him to finish and wanted to pose with him..
but The Husband didn’t notice.
then N had to have her turn and still The Husband didn’t notice
Then H decided to have some fun
By now both of them were enjoying themselves
… and some more!

That’s how focussed he is.

He payed a pretty heavy price for his work obsession, developing stress related diabetes. However over the last few months there have been some very positive changes. He has joined a gym and to the entire extended family’s complete disbelief he has kept at it for the past five months. He is at the gym six days a week, he has lost some weight, he is eating healthier and he keeps early nights.

Touchwood!

Five stress busters that work for us…
1. Spending real time with the kids. While they might be the greatest stress creators kids are also the best ever stress busters. The Husband enjoys squabbling with them. He has been putting them to bed more often and they spend ages chatting before they drop off asleep (While I get time to blog.. heh heh).
2. Rediscovering a hobby. Blogging works for me, gardening, crafting, listening to music might work for you.
3. Exercising. Walk, dance, hit the treadmill.. pick any. It works.
4. Meeting up with friends. While elaborate entertaining stresses us out a simple dinner or coffee with friends works just great.
5. Watching Television. Yeah I know TV is a much maligned medium and I’m no blind fan but sometimes sitting before it and watching a film or show and laughing together is just fun.

So what are yours?

Linking to ABC Wednesday