Notes from a perplexed mum

How should I teach the kids to ….

… fit in but stand out

… be disciplined but break the rules

… speak their mind but not be rude

… be smart but not be cheeky

… be active but not naughty

… help people in trouble but stay away from trouble

… be generous but watch their interest

… make new friends but not talk to strangers

… grow up fast but retain their innocence

… be independent but never stop needing me

A miracle

Quick … what comes to mind when I say autodrivers?
Rude, cheeky, rowdy, dishonest.. right?

— They’re the ones who are almost never available when you most need them
— When you do spot one, he won’t go because you’re not going far enough
— They’ll take the longest route possible while convincing you it is the best one
— They’ll declare their meter dead and charge an exorbitant flat rate
— In fact they’ll never go by the meter unless it is fudged

That’s why I call this a miracle. Read on..

We went shopping – the twins and I. Of course that was miracle no 1. Yes the kids are growing up. What with their busy social lives they just do not have the time to go shopping in the evening with their ma — even if it’s for their own stuff. This time round, however, I squashed all protests and refused to do multiple rounds exchanging their clothes. They agreed grudgingly, specially Hrit who hates any time at all that is spent without his best ever chum, Y.

We shopped for shoes and swimwear in a matter of minutes and headed home. Hrit whined all the way about the ‘wasted’ time while Naisha drowsed off amidst complaints of having missed playtime. And so it was that as we arrived I was at my flustered best squinting at the auto meter, hunting around for change, telling Naisha “yes you may go to the playground” and Hrit “Yes you may call over Y”. In all the craziness the shopping packets lying quietly at the back of the auto were quite forgotten.

As I was unlocking the door to my flat my empty hands reminded me of my blunder. I sprinted to the building gate but the auto was long gone. I wish I had the words to explain my frustration then. It was not so much about the money but the HUGE effort that had gone to waste.

I was coming back deflated, cursing the side effects of old age and there I saw Naisha standing with all the bags. What was this? A miracle? Well yes sort of. Apparently the auto driver discovered the bags, came back and having overheard Naisha saying that she was going to the ground he went there, found her and handed over the bags. How’s that for a surprise!

Thank you dear auto-driver. You didn’t simply return me a few clothes and shoes, by your small act you reaffirmed my faith in humanity, reassured me that goodness and honesty are well and truly surviving. You have inspired me to look for the ‘nice guy’ in everyone around me. And that, my friend, is worth a million bucks of shopping. Wish there were more like you.

.. and so they graduated

First, here are a few things you must do at all school functions:1. Do NOT sit back, relax and enjoy the proceedings. Remember you are a smart proactive parent.
2. Make a video of the ENTIRE proceedings. Don’t bother about other parents struggling to get a snap, after all you’re the only one who needs memories of your child’s growing up years.
3. Make sure all family members attending the function are out of their seats, clicking. If your hifi handycam misses something it’ll surely be caught by the camera phone of one of the other family members. If one makes a video the others can click pictures.. of course you need both. Nothing is too much for your child.
4. Do not move away after you finish clicking pictures of your child. Don’t worry about blocking other parents’ view, after all their children aren’t half as special as yours.
5.  Don’t forget to smile and wave at your child. So what if that makes him forget his part or spoils the formation, after all it’s just a small school programme. Exhibiting love for your child is way more important.
6. Do not bother to clap for other children. Their parents are there for them.
7. Do not bother to listen to or follow instructions that the lady at the mike is reiterating. Use the time  to marvel at the pictures you’ve clicked and the video you’ve made.
8. Do not remain seated a second after the proceedings are over. You need to be the first parent to take your child home. It’s through small initiatives like these that you teach him/her that winning has to be the cornerstone of one’s existence.

Whew! Now since I’ve got all of that out of my system, onto happier things. Finally, after four years of school, the kids qualified for class 1. Though calling it a ‘graduation’ sounds a bit strange to my Indian ears I have to admit the ceremony was the sweetest ever.

N gets her ‘degree’

 

Don’t they look sweet?

 

That’s H raising the flag of Egypt in a song they performed

 

… and he gets his license for class 1
Picture quality’s not too good because I didn’t get down to doing this post until after the ceremony. Will post super-class video next time. Watch out.