Happy Holi

I am a Holi convert. I grew up hiding from the mess that was Holi. I had to be coaxed out to meet the string of uncles, aunties, didis and bhaiyyas who’d drop by to wish my parents. I would come out in a not-so-good-temper, allow them to colour me, offer them the mandatory mithais and dahivadas that mum specialised in, then disappear into my hiding place wishing they’d leave me alone.

However one thing that had me excited was the food. My grandmoms would make huge boxes full of goodies. Days in advance they would sit along with my mum making gujhiyas, mathris (which we called sohaals) and dalmoth. If you haven’t had a gujhiya fresh out of a kadhai you’ve missed something in life. The hot khoa spills out to fill your mouth right at first bite and the gujhiya melts like a dream. My sister and I would pitch in sometimes. We’d sit armed with forks stabbing away at the matharis. That’s as much of our contribution as I could remember.

Then Hrit and Naisha happened and I moved to Bombay. Those were the two things that converted me. The twins, like all kids I suppose, are water fanatics. Give them water, any kind of water — coloured water, plain water, clean water, dirty water, rain water, drain water and they can play for hours. Even at two years I well remember their awe at the idea that such a festival existed — a day when mama who was forever screaming at them to stay way from water would let them splash around for hours.

And then there was Bombay. There’s Holi and there’s Bombay Holi. It’s has nothing of the old world charm of a Lucknow Holi. It’s noisy, boisterous, musical and very very wet. There would be huge sprinklers spewing water and a huger music system spewing the latest hits. People would dance with an abandon that was contagious. No protests would be valid and no one would be spared. There were no bystanders… everyone was a participant. That would be followed by a buffet lunch so we didn’t have to spend our day in the kitchen.

Like it’s said converts are the greatest fanatics… and so am I. I look forward to Holi each year with great anticipation, I bear with the kids (though not with good humour every time) when they want to change their clothes and jump back in the fray, I enjoy the colour, the water, the mess.

This year Naisha changed thrice. Each time she came home soaking wet, dripping colour, teeth chattering only to go back. The food has taken a beating though. I cook of course but not the real Holi stuff. I just can’t get the hang of those gujhiyas. It has to all come together.. the food and the colours to make the perfect Holi.. maybe next year… must master those gujhiyas.

Edited to add: My sister tells me we did play some Holi when we were  young. She doesn’t remember much of the food though.. guess we’re both differently wired.

Crafty Sunday

This is a post long overdue. It would have died a quiet death like so many before it had the last date for Shruti’s Artsy Craftsy February challenge not come up. Here it is.. my entry.

In a moment of weakness I promised N we’d make some nice ‘hearty’ crafts for Valentine’s day this year. I keep having these moments of madness and I keep living to regret them too. This time H fell ill and drove all thoughts of celebration out of my mind.

However N wasn’t about to forget my promise. Not just that, she also invited some of her friends. “We’ll all make ‘sooper’ things with my mama,” she told them all. So it was that the Sunday before Valentine’s Day a group of girls descended with their paints and brushes ready for some action.

Seeing there was no way I could wriggle out of this one I left H to watch the television and thought we’d make something quick and easy and get it over with.

Here’s my bunch of girls all set.

We started off with simple heart badges. We cut out heart shapes from coloured paper and the girls decorated them as they pleased with the name of the receiver in the centre. Finally we put on tiny bows and the badges were done. They didn’t seem too impressive till we saw almost all the children of the society wearing them in the evening. Pretty cute.

Next we did table place mats. I brought out old magazines and ad fliers that had come in with the newspapers on Sunday and cut out heart shapes. The girls got mat-sized chart paper/ handmade paper to stick on the hearts. There were ‘pizza hearts’ and ‘sunset hearts’ and when I couldn’t keep up with them I simply did some from coloured paper. The older ones went ahead and drew some figures too. What fun.

Finally we put some ribbon and got them laminated.

BTW a bunch of girls is not easy to handle. One of them wanted to make seven mats because she had seven members in her family. Another one requested, “May I make a small one for my baby sister at least?” I know now why I enevr made it to teaching. How on earth do you handle so many children? And worse, the requests are made so sweetly you don’t want to break even one heart.

Happy New Year

First things first… a very very happy new year.

2012 kind of crept up on me while I was busy having a good time with the visiting in-laws and celebrating birthdays and anniversaries… we have a total of four in December, mine included. With Christmas plus the holidays … the month is a total riot.

Christmas Eve which began as a perfect day, ended at Chokhi Dhani. That’s highly highly recommended for kids and a warning for the adults – be careful with the food — it’s delicious but steeped in ghee/oil and had us all rushing around for digenes and enos. The kids were/are happy with Santa’s gifts, Hrit included, and for the moment the skateboard threat is off.

Santa Rangoli at Chokhi Dhani

And the crown Santa got. For some reason it has to be worn with a dupatta even if you’re in your nightie.

The in-laws left on the 30th after wrapping up the celebrations. Next morning we drove off to Panchagani. That’s becoming our regular year end destination. I rung in the new year sitting under clear open skies at a strawberry farm, a blazing bonfire, hot biryani, kids curled up fast asleep under thick blankets, friends around me and music from our cars parked by. The only catch.. I was nursing the worst cold of my life. Which meant a zillion sneezes, a red nose, hurting ears and throat, watering eyes and a trail of tissues wherever I went.

Pretty much like the year gone by — the good and the bad together in a bunch but the good far overshadowing the bad.

We did a quick detour to Mahabaleshwar next morning. Said our ‘hello’s’ to Mapro farms in our own special ways — the children by jumping for ages on the trampoline and the adults by tucking into bowls of fresh strawberrys and cream… completely forgetting the fact that some of them hadn’t met their weightloss targets for the year :-(.. but really, those berrys are worth it.

I had a great birthday even though I’m not really good at celebrating my own. Most birthdays I end up overworked and depressed… not so this time. The in-laws were there to cushion kidstress (that’s the stress that kids cause merely by being ‘kids’). And the icing on the cake.. I got some very thoughtful presents… my favourite – a new pair of sneakers from my SIL. My niece picked them so they had to be pink and white and I love them. The Husband, that great forgetter of birthdays, also remembered. (To be fair.. he forgot just once but I’m not about to let him forget that he did forget. Nor is the entire family .. everyone remembers to remind him each year).

School has reopened and I am revelling in the routine.. yes I do love the comfort of routine. Managed my morning walk after the kids left for school and then jazzed off to the gym singing ‘I am H.A.P.P.Y’.

Hope that’s how the New Year will be for all of us… H.A.P.P.Y.

A day before Christmas

Is it my birthday? I wondered as I got out of bed to find a steaming cup of tea sitting on the table. I was last out of bed today. The in-laws went over to the sis-in-law’s for the night and I pottered about on the comp till late. It being the first day of the holidays I decided to take it easy lazing in bed till well past 8. This tea-on-the-table thing took me by surprise. Wow. The Husband had done the honours.

Then I saw Hrit at the table drinking his milk.. I blinked and blinked again. Now who gave him milk? The Husband? As I was still trying to take it all in Naisha pranced out of her room, “Mama I’ve had my milk AND I’ve had my bath.” Wow wow wow. This surely is a first. Ever.

I looked The Husband. “What’s up?” I asked. He seemed pretty happy with himself and enjoying my surprise… but will he admit it? Nope. “It’s Naisha. It was her idea .. said she wanted to surprise you and so…,” he tailed off grinning.

In the kitchen.. the milk was boiled… this by The Husband who normally picks up the paper and leaves the milk bag hanging at the door.

I checked the calendar again. No it’s not my birthday. Must put it down to the Christmas spirit.

Santa’s been top of mind the whole of this last week.. obviously for the goodies he’s going to get. Hrit has been asking for a skateboard for ages. We were not sure he’s old enough to handle it and so got him a scooter instead. The Husband tried to tell him a skateboard’s too expensive to which Hrit replied, “Santa will get it, you don’t worry.” I’ve been trying to convince him a scooter is a better gift and I’m keeping my fingers crossed Santa is not blacklisted when the gifts are opened.

Naisha being Naisha thought and thought and thought. When I asked her what she’d asked Santa to get her, “It’s a secret. I’ll tell only Santa,” she announced, which had me in a tizzy. This Santa deception is getting tougher to keep up by the year. When she did finally tell, her choices were so bizarre they’d have had the real Santa running all over the North Pole looking for her stuff. Finally she settled for a crown.

Our good old Arocaria tree doubles as the Christmas tree each year.. it’s big and green and can hold lots of decorations. We had fun doing it up. Each evening they’ve been reminding Santa of their gifts, and, I might add, they’ve even been trying hard to be good. Today morning, to ensure correct delivery, the kids placed drawings of their anticipated gifts under the tree to make it easier for Santa to figure out what they want. Really, no chance of confusion here.

What a Diwali it was

Caution: Long post alert.. this one’s really long

Happy Diwali all you people. What a day. No matter how much I pre plan and prepare Diwali is always crazy and I find myself racing to keep up with the day. This, despite simplifying everything from cooking and cleaning to the puja. Wonder how my mum did it all… the massive cleaning, the lavish cooking, endless hunting for the perfect Ganesh Lakshmi, the scouting for that perfect kandil for the doorway, lining the entire driveway (and we had a loooong one) with candles, dressing up and finally the elaborate puja. I forgot to add that there would be guests dropping in all the while too.

The day began peacefully enough…
The kids fortunately were down playing almost all day leaving me to change sheets, cushion covers, table covers and set up flower arrangements undisturbed. The Husband was glued to his phone with his colleagues, ex and present, discussing Diwali auto sales. His exclamations would make you think he was Rahul Bajaj or Anand Mahindra with the profits flowing into his own personal account… the happiness he gets out of such conversations, My God! Strange na how when the kids leave you alone it’s like ‘Wow’ but when The Husband leaves you alone it’s like ‘Grrrrrrrr’.

 

A clean and pretty house is so
rare and such a pleasure

 

By the time I reached the kitchen it was noon and The Husband had taken the kids firework shopping. They came back with N in the middle of a hunger-driven tantrum demanding to be fed by ‘Only Mama’. However, one monster story and they were both eating out of my hand, literally.

.. and then the kids took over

A short rest and it was back to making rangolis and getting set for the puja. A friend dropped by with a Diwali gift. The kids took it away to their room and managed to open not just the one meant for us but even the one she’d got for someone else. I discovered the earth never does open and up and swallow you no matter how desperately you pray. And so I apologised till I was blue in the face, offered them fresh wrapping paper which they graciously declined and then bid a hasty farewell. Whew!
WARNING: Don’t come to our home with a gift not meant for us.. don’t EVER come with one wrapped in pink and one in blue… apparently that’s where the confusion started.
Note to H and N: When you’re older and start to find your parents embarrassing.. remember what you put us through and bear with us.

While I got the rangoli ready H managed to knock down and break the Ganesha idol we’d got for the puja and came within an inch of being whacked by the frustrated Husband who had been made to go and get it at the nth hour. That was not the end though. They fought over the rangolis, stepped into them, got colour over their new clothes..making Diwali look like Holi, and generally got in the way as much as they possibly could. They were on a roll.

N, the brave

Finally we finished the puja and went down for the fireworks. N turned out to be the hero of the moment. She jumped around lighting up chakris and anars without a shred of fear, first with The Husband’s help and then on her own while I watched with my heart in my mouth. She so reminded me of Zoya from  Anuja Chauhan’s Zoya Factor. If you haven’t read that book, you must. H meanwhile stood back hugging me scared to even take up a phuljhadi. Since I am a legendary darpok when it comes to fireworks N amazed me. The Husband called H a darpok and got an earful from me.

 

Can you believe this?

That, ladies and gentlemen, was how my Diwali went. How was yours?

PS: Days before Diwali H had been pestering me to make a ’30’ so that ‘Goddess Lakshmi would come home’. It was just yesterday that I realised he meant an ‘Om’ 😀
Leftie, forever