Letters however are a different thing. They give you space to think and express and talk about things you might never have told each other.
Let me start at the beginning. It certainly wasn’t love at first sight. There you were, comfortably sleeping in MY favourite place, snuggling up to my favourite person. That’s MY mum, I’d shouted! claiming what was rightfully mine, had been mine for three whole years – ALL mine. But then probably you’d opened your eyes and given me one of those smiles.. Toothless, guileless, lazy and laid back and I was sold – just like everyone else. Then on we shared everything.. clothes, books, school, college, crushes, friends and foes.
Yeah you call me didi but that’s such a token thing.. Like Manmohan Singh’s prime ministership!
We were equal partners in crime, plotting and planning against the common ‘enemy’ mum! Remember how we spilt the entire bottle of cream and hid it away, or the times we sneaked off the school bus to our favourite bookshop, or when we managed to unlock the TV (yeah TVs had locks back then) and watch that forbidden film? I still get goosebumps but you never had any reservations, cool as the proverbial cucumber.
We are the perfect foil to each other. My patience to your impetuousness, my Capricornian discretion to your Scorpio bluntness, my conformity to your irreverence, my look-before-you-leap to your if-you-hesitate-you’re-lost… so different yet so similar.
When I became a mum.. you turned the best masi ever… cool and fun. Whether it’s taking the kids for a walk in the rain (something I’ll never do), teaching N to whistle (something I cannot do) or trading drawings of aliens with H… you’re the best. If ever there comes a time when the kids have a disagreement with me I know they will confide in you. And I know you will guide them with level headed wisdom, sanely yet without the encumbrances of being a mum. And secure in that knowledge I blithely wield the strict mum baton.
You’ve taught me so many things….
To have fun without over thinking consequences.
to be brave and strong and to accept, … not just accept … but to enjoy life no matter what cards are dealt to you.
Life wouldn’t have been the same without you
PS: Yeah I got all emotional but it doesn’t mean I’ll relinquish the remote or let you switch on the fan at night… don’t even think about it!